Maybe you have talked about this before but if not... How do you tell someone you are dating that you're diabetic? What way is there to not overwhelm/scare them off, but yet still express the seriousness that its not just the "diabetus" their grandma's great aunt's cat has?@Anonymous
I have but it’s ok! Also that last part you said was quite funny haha.
Well, in your case, if you’re already dating them, it seems like it might be a new relationship and you’re still in the “getting to know each other” phase. I’d sit them down and let them know you have something important to tell them about yourself. Say it right then and there, don’t sugar coat it (worst pun ever).
"I have type 1 diabetes, which means I need insulin when I eat, since my pancreas doesn’t make any. It’s commonly known as juvenile diabetes. I get the insulin in my by (shots or pump), maybe show them your pump, or a shot you have on you. What do you know about type 1 diabetes?"
Then go from there.
Maybe ask if you can tell them your story, maybe keep the talk short, as it’s a lot to take in. That’s your call to make. I know it was a lot to take in when I was diagnosed, we all know what it’s like to just have something come out of nowhere right?
Also the absolute best thing in the world is to be honest. Let them know the kind of impact it has on your life. Good and bad. Let them know you’re not contagious and that you can indeed eat cookies and pizza and stuff. I mean imagine if someone broke up with you because they kissed you and thought you “infected” them, so they thought they couldn’t eat pizza anymore!?!! Man, I’m really not good at jokes when I’m tired…
I’ve had two girlfriends since being diabetic, and both of them didn’t ever have a problem with it. That’s just my experience though. I remember them listening intently to me telling them about it, and I remember it being a lot to take in, but they were totally cool about it. I did however go on a date before, a first date, and I laid out some serious stuff to this girl about the disease. I think I overdid it, and just talked way too much about it. What I mean by that is, I focused too much on that, instead of actually talking about other things and having a good time. Although if you’re already dating someone, I think explaining and sharing it all is fine, but again, you have to remember it is a lot to take in, especially if they have no clue about it at all!
Anyways! If you’re honest and tell them how it affects you and what kind of impact it has on you and they want to jump ship, unfortunately you can’t do anything about that. This isn’t something you can change, it’s a part of you for the time being, and if that’s not cool with them, then you are absolutely 100% better off without that person. To be completely honest, I commend significant others who are cool with diabetic partners. I’m not a fan of needles, insulin pumps, and all of that, so if someone doesn’t like it, then that’s their call. I remember even after having been taking shots for months, that the thought of a pump on my body freaked me out! I know things like that are second nature to us, but everyone’s “normal” isn’t some device attached to their skin all the time. So being understanding of each other’s feelings is a two way street.
You may tell him or her all about it and they JUMP RIGHT IN to reading everything they can. They may just take it all in and be supportive in the best ways they can. It completely depends on the person. You can’t control that.
Now with that said, if they’re an asshole about it, like as in they say there is something wrong with you, you’re disgusting (like the pump thing or shots) or they don’t want to have kids with you, or something completely uncalled for, walk. the fuck. away. and be done with them, because you deserve someone who makes you happy, and someone who likes you the way you are.
I’ll say that last thing one more time, as I think it’s really the most important thing out of this reply.
You deserve someone who makes you happy, and someone who likes you the way you are.
I’m in college at the moment and all the money I have spent on books and fees I rarley have money for food or medical supplies I feel my spirit and health diminishing but I just keep telling myself one day I won’t have to worry about any of this but it’s a lie.
Today I was holding someone’s hand and running my fingers along their fingers and realized I was subconsciously trying to feel for the calluses that dot my fingers from poking everyday, but his were smooth where mine were blood stained and it didn’t fit at all.
Sometimes I’m insanely jealous of all the people with visible diseases because no one believes just how bad I can feel sometimes with my diabetes. Silent and invisible, it saps me of almost everything. I’ve been running on fumes for so long…when will someone else see it?
So This Guy I Know Who Works At A Walgreen’s
He was stocking up things and an older customer started ragging on him and asked to speak with his manager because “he couldn’t be separated from his electronic devices and started insulting our generation for being irresponsible lazy idiots who are dependent on technology”.
He then asked her what was the device she was referring to. When she pointed out the “the blue iPod on his hip” he corrected her by informing her that the device was his insulin pump.